Hurtful vs. Helpful

Helpful vs Hurtful

As a no doubt quiet, overly sensitive introvert who used to cry at the drop of a hat, I used to take everything personally even constructive criticism. My eyes teared up and my voice  But I've since grown a slightly thicker skin. I've come to witness some things that rub me the wrong way so here goes....

Are the words leaving your lips or the tips of your fingers being used to uplift or to send your unwarranted opinion. When granted the opportunity to speak, will the words that leave your lips really help or they just an unhealthy opinion just being thrown out there?

Hurtful:  Recently, I read a combative conversation between two of my Facebook "friends" The person who's post it was on stated their feelings towards their own personal decisions. People liked and commented but another began to speak on what's wrong with the others' choices. There was a back and forth but then the commenter went on to make a post of their own stating something along the lines of "if you can't take the heat, stay out of the kitchen" Not those exact words, but you get the picture. And this is where is it helpful or hurtful came to mind.

Philippians 2:1-8 Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, 2 then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. 3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.
5 In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:
6 Who, being in very nature God,did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage;
7 rather, he made himself nothing
    by taking the very nature of a servant,
    being made in human likeness.
8 And being found in appearance as a man,
    he humbled himself
    by becoming obedient to death—
        even death on a cross!

Helpful: As Christians it is our job to live a holy example regardless of the outlets. Be it social media or otherwise. If someone's doing, reading, watching, posting etc. anything you do not like, you reserve every right to....PRAY for them. If it does not align with your lifestyle, pray that God removes it. If it is against God's will, rebuke it and move along. It is true that you have the right to comment/make remarks/voice your opinion but it is not your OPINION that is RIGHT! Ask yourself, "Are these words pleasing and will they make the proper change I want to relay?" Remember, often times it's not what you say but how you say it.

Galatians 6:10 As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith.

CommitmentPhobia; It's a real thing

Albert Einstein defines Insanity as "doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results" 

Now as I have stated in my previous post, I'm a commitment-phobe. I believe the only things I have committed to are Graphic Design, Choir, and Praise Dancing. I'm trying, I really am. 

I want to do so much in life. I want to succeed in things I am passionate about, I want to live a healthier lifestyle, I want to be a good person. I want to live and love myself and others without regrets, and I want to accept and grow from my mistakes without being so critical of myself because I AM MY OWN BIGGEST CRITIC. 

“I am my own biggest critic. Before anyone else has criticized me, I have already criticized myself. But for the rest of my life, I am going to be with me and I don't want to spend my life with someone who is always critical. So I am going to stop being my own critic. It's high time that I accept all the great things about me.”― C. JoyBell C.

That is my goal for this month (until my next post & beyond,) not being so critical of myself. As I look for employment, knowing that I am good enough, knowing that I CAN make things happen and continuing to put myself out there even after hearing NO or no reply at all.

I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me. 

Philippians 4:13

Some may say that the scripture is cliche but its true and I believe the Bible to Be the Inspired and Only Infallible Written Word of God.

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In other news...
This weekend, my aunt, sister, cousins and myself had our annual Girl's Weekend. Though we were, a couple bodies short, we gained a couple new ones. It was quite enjoyable. It felt good just to be around them and laugh, shop, talk and cook. I like cooking (hate doing dishes though). It felt awesome being together, unfiltered and uninterrupted (expect a certain someone having to go to work Saturday Morning.) Good times, good stuff. Love those ladies.

Anywho. Later Loves,
Until Next Time 

Let's Be Honest....2014

Hello Loves!!

    I put myself up to a challenge to blog once a month in 2014 on New Years Day. I even set an alarm for the 15th of every month to do so. Seeing that today is the 30th of January, I am very unreliable to myself.

This year I will begin by admitting some things to myself and with doing so, hopefully I can change them for nothing but the better.
     1. I have a commitment issue.
         I can always begin things but I have a hard time sticking around to see results.
     2. I'm an introvert.
         Merriam-Webster defines an introvert as : a shy person : a quiet person who does not find it easy to talk to other people... Quiet people have the loudest minds.
     3. Being an introvert, I am very soft-spoken.
         Being soft-spoken doesn't get you heard or recognized and it gets nothing done.
     4. I underestimate myself way too much.
         Mentally and some of the time physically I know I can do certain things but somewhere and somehow self doubt creeps in and I lose site of the potential goal.
    5. I have a huge fear of failure.
        I don't understand. This coincides with number one and number four. Sometimes I don't even put  myself into positions where I will have the potential to fail.

So with this being said, it is my goal to seriously better myself in 2014!!! I hope you'll be on my team because I think I'll need a good team of encouragers.

Later!!!
Until Next Time!